It doesn't matter what I type to you here because right now your mind and heart are made up. You still want her back. How could you not? When someone breaks it off with you it is different and you want to do anything to get them back.

I'll be realistic with you, she probably made her mind up and is NOT coming back. At the same time you can not be pushy and try anything and everything to see her. It doesn't matter what you do she won't care. She might be happy that you are finishing school. But understand that its purely platonic. You could become the richest man in the world or win the Nobel Prize, her mind will remain the same.



If there is one thing that I have learned about a woman its that when you don't do what is needed to be done at the point of the relationship, there is NO going back. They always remember all the little things that you didn't do that you are desperately trying to do now. Who knows your situation might be different and I truly hope it is.

My advice is just let her be. If she wants to come back, she will. If not, its time to let go. Good luck.

Bubba I've been there too... probably more times then I care to mention. I won't sugar coat it for you thought... its gonna hurt... and its gonna hurt for a while.. I wouldn't be a friend if I didnt say that much. My situation this last go around is a little different though... When Angela passed away I didn't know what to do... I would wake up with her on my mind and fall asleep (when I could) with her on my mind. There were times when I wouldn't sleep at all because I knew if I did.... she'd be there in my dreams.

As time went on I started thinkin about it a little less.... then one day I woke up and she wasn't the first thing on my mind.... Sure I sill think about her and I always will... she was my soul mate after all.... and there will always be pain associated when I think of it... but I'm still alive.... and I've learned to live again.... and my friend... you will too.

BRO, WE ALL PULLING THERE FOR YOU.

YOU HAVE TO BE ACCEPTED FOR WHAT YOU ARE. YOU TRY TO CHANGE, THEN EVERYTHING WILL COME BACK AND MAKE IT WORSE. I AM WITH THE LAST 2 AGREEMENTS. YOU CANT "FORCE" HER TO CHANGE. AND SHE CAN'T DO IT TO YOU EITHER. YOU ACCEPTED ALREADY WHO IS LANCER AND SHE KNEW THAT FROM THE GET-GO.

I KNOW, MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSED TO BE WORKABLE. BUT IT TAKES BOOTH OF YOU. AND ACCEPT BOOTH AS WHAT YOU GUYS ARE ABOUT. YOU GIVE SOMETHING UP.... IT COMES BACK MAN. I DON'T KNOW THE DETAILS BUT YOU UNDERSTAND ME BETTER AS WELL SINCE WE KNOW EACH OTHER. AND YOU AND I KNOW MANY DIVORCES AND MARRIAGES WITH OUR FRIENDS. TAKE YOUR TIME BRO. WORRY ABOUT YOU. KNOW WE ARE THERE ANYTIME YOU NEED US.